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So you’re thinking about avenging your cruel sociopath?

To begin this virtual encounter, let’s make you look invincible and utterly intimidating — that will make it super tough for you to lose, right?

WRONG: It’ll give you absolutely no advantage …
but please play along, OK? 

At six-foot-five, you were the all-star line-backer right up through college … no one in their right mind even messed with you. So why on earth would you just stand by and allow this petite little “lady” to take manipulate you, use you, and endlessly lie to you. You don’t see any of it, do you?!

Don’t you see the RED FLAGS? You’re being played a fool, and my gut tells me she’s not playing any innocent courting game with you, either. I’ve seen her when you haven’t, my friend, and that tiny little gal scares me. I see two different people in that body, and they don’t seem to know each other. That’s how she’s got you suckered. Wake up, man! Get your head out of those clouds, or you’ll never getor you’ll never get …   continue reading …
 

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What is this site about?

Sociopaths … their disciples, followers, and their unfortunate victims.

All from the perspective and experience of a life-long victim — by his father, siblings, and then his wife. How they operate, how they manipulate, and how dangerous they can be. What it’s like to be the victim of a sociopath. How a innocent person may unknowingly become a victim. How extremely difficult it is to identify a sociopath, and why you may not want to. Unless otherwise noted, all the information is from personal experience.

Is this written by a medical professional?

No. I have no advanced, formal training dealing in psychology, including personality disorders. I know as fact that a formal education will provide a student with a world of textbook knowledge, as well as some hands-on training and internships.

On the other hand, that would seem to come no where near the truly unfortunate experience obtained by someone who has been victimized, long-term, by a maliciously-deviant sociopath. Frankly, I would have preferred to take the course.

To help understand the difference, I’ll use my analogy: War in Afghanistan.

Determine if #1 or #2 would be able to provide you with the best description of the war:

1) the MD or PhD, in general, they would get their information by getting online and googling: “the war in Afghanistan”

2) the victim of a sociopath, it would be like getting your information from a foot soldier returning from a 12-month deployment in Afghanistan, with stories like being trapped in a dilapidated building, taking increasing enemy gun fire, when they receive the radio transmission they were waiting for: “roger that … no more troops are available … good luck fellas.”

Just like people in general, not all psychiatrists are the same. Do not get caught up with the idea that, “Well, I only recently started with this shrink, so maybe that’s why s/he doesn’t seem to get it yet … maybe just a little more time.”  How much time do you have?

If things don’t “click” between the two of you within a few appointments, there are a lot more where you found that one. Not all professionals will provide equal, if any help. Read my very surprising post…

Shouldn’t HE know his wife is a sociopath?

It’s about a psychiatrist married to a woman who has virtually all the characteristics indicating she’s a textbook sociopath. What keeps him from seeing it? The doctor is either an enabler or in denial, but in either case, he’s a disciple.

Does the author have substantial experience?

This is written by one man, Larry, who has a lifetime of experience (50+ years) as being a victim of multiple sociopaths — Larry’s abusive late-father, his extremely abusive oldest sister (Kathy), his younger brother (Alan), and middle sister (Marcia). Larry’s ex-wife of 12 years (Julie) is also a sociopath, and additionally has been diagnosed revengefully dangerous, psychotic, bipolar, and borderline schizophrenic. And lastly, the most crushing fact of all is that all three of Larry’s adult-children have inherited the ‘bad’ gene, and each has eventually cut Larry out of their lives, guided by the encouragement of Kathy and Julie.

In what form is the information presented?

For the most part, it’s written in a documentary form. Each post is like another chapter in this life-time long, autobiography of sorts. I decided to write it this way hoping that people may be able to relate their own lives to certain events, and then read how that turned out for me. I tell the story of revelations in my life, in detail, including how I made the discoveries, how a sociopath’s cruelty is terrifyingly unbelievable, and how they will stop at nothing to succeed at achieving their goals.

Does “bad-upbringing” create sociopaths?

From my experience, definitely NO. What is “bad-upbringing” anyway? Is being spoiled “bad-upbringing”? My sister Kathy was spoiled, and she has APD. Does being abused your entire childhood, physically and emotionally, fall under “bad-upbringing”? I would think so. I was abused physically and emotionally, and I did not acquire any personality disorder. My own family’s history seems to be able to dispel any notions of that all by itself.

If not upbringing, then what?

Genetics … it’s hereditary. There is no such thing as a “normal” person, as everyone’s brain is just wired differently. I believe, without a doubt, that upbringing has virtually nothing to do with it. Bad-upbringing can create a bad person, but not a true sociopath. Given my theory, that sociopath with the bad-upbringing was due to a parent who was a mean sociopath. I have traced the travels of our bad gene back three generations.

If it’s hereditary, then why aren’t you a sociopath?

Damn lucky. I can’t explain it, but I do have a good theory. Many, if not most conditions can skip a generation. That does not mean I don’t carry the gene, only that it’s dormant in me — for lack of a better word. But what’s really odd, is that I’m virtually the opposite. I cannot lie. I have never intensionally hurt anyone in my life. I help people in need, even if it places me at risk.

I rescue dogs that are considered unadoptable because they were labeled as mean. They growled at people who got too close. They don’t growl because they’re mean, they growl because they’re afraid. They were physically abused by cruel humans, so they learned that humans are not trustworthy. It takes patience, since what they need to learn is that they don’t need to fear humans anymore.

Is every sociopath a danger to society?

I hope the answer to that is “no” — but then the definition of danger is expansive. If you read the characteristics of a typical sociopath, it can describe virtually any elected-politician. It can also describe those in law, medicine, and high-paid corporate CEOs. But even some of those professionals have been caught and convicted of major felonies. I believe it actually permeates throughout our society … 20% of the population carry the gene would not surprise me in the least. In my family, it’s the majority.

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