True Christians (as with other religions too) follow the teaching of Jesus (or their chosen religious leader). Jesus wanted us to make good decisions that benefit everyone. That includes making sacrifices. Even the laws of this nation believe that we at what ever age should be held accountable for our actions.

I’ve located a MAC – IV test given by professionals to determine what behavior patterns people display. A well seasoned sociopath will not display answers that depict their true self. (http://personality-testing.info/tests/MACH-IV.php)

We do not see sociopath behavior in others especially family members because we were raised under the same roof by the same parents and for the most part we reach adulthood before we realize that not all households share the same beliefs or practices the same daily.

At this site (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Machiavellianism) you’ll get an in depth description of the dark triad of behavior patterns which lead to becoming a sociopath.

I learned a lot studying this information and now see my sociopath sibling in a different light.

Larry I do apologize for over stepping my bounds as a poster here.
This isn’t my blog spot, it’s yours, I was only trying to share my experiences and help others, I should have left MY RELIGION out of it.

I’ll take you hint and gracefully back on out.
Sorry for trampling on things of yours.

I thank each of you from the depths of my heart for sharing and posting and helping me figure things out and learn for your experiences.

May the God of your choice richly bless each of you and keep a watchful eye over you.

Sincerely,
Blacksheep

Everyone here should take the steps you are i.e. collecting the proof and the evidence. The facts are the only thing that will eventually help you to win out in the end because they lie so well and on such a constant basis that they can make anyone believe they are telling the truth. My sister is one of the worst cases I have ever come across in my life – it’s lie after lie – the damage she has done and keeps doing to me is never ending. She now has my mother living with her and has turned her against all of her other children because all my other siblings have come to realize what she is.

I am going to have to resort to recording each and every encounter I have with her as well as documenting everything she does with my mothers affairs because my mother believes that all of her other children have turned against her and so has her in charge of her life. I also agree about not shouting, swearing and staying as composed as possible. We confronted our sociopath sister at xmas and she went totally ballistic – she denied everything that was put to her and blamed it all on a deceased family in-law as naturally they could not defend themselves – there is no end to their badness but take it from me – good will prevail in the end – sometimes you have to give them enough rope in order for them to hang themselves! GOOD LUCK!

I have a facebook account. I have a fake or nickname I go by and I have no personal contact info on there. My sociopath sibling found out about my facebook account and slammed me big time on there. Called me a drunken whore and said she felt so sorry for my children having to be raised by me. THANK GOD I was up and on the PC and got the private email alert from facebook about a new post! I printed that post and put it in a file folder that has advanced to a four in thick notebook with several other damning things she’s sent me via the internet. That was three years ago.

I’d like to suggest that you close that account out and if you really want a facebook account make a new one in a fake name and put no personal information on there. If you feel you can trust some of your sister’s children to keep it private then allow them the new info but you best be careful with that. Their mother will be screening their every move and eventually find out and possibly twist and use anything and everything you say against you.

I’ve been accused of cashing in a $15,000 life insurance policy of my mother’s BEFORE she passed away. When my son at my encouragement contacted the insurance company and asked questions they wanted mother’s SSN and I gave it to him, they readily gave hiom the info on the policy. It had NOT been cashed in and sociopath sibling had changed the beneficiary in 2003 to ONLY HER! This is but one of the many lies sociopath sibling has told on me. And the hits just keep on coming! Just take those old records off the shelf …… and store them in a safe place for future reference!

Joe, please take Lary’s advice here and arm yourself with truth. Document everything you can.

I’ve raised my two children to listen and then verify what people are telling them and when in doubt come ask me and I’ll help in any way I can. So far my son has come to realize that his mother isn’t the bad ass bitch his Aunt has been telling him about all these years. Lawyers and judges and doctors and nurses listen and then they go verify and we all should take note of that and do the same.

My son confronted her about it and she said …. Oh it’s NOT THAT policy I was talking about, it’s the $250,000 policy mother had and YOUR MOTHER cashed it in and spent everyone elses inheritence, all the other children and grandchildren’s inheritence!

My mother didn’t have the financial means to pay the monthly payments on a huge life insurance policy like that. Mother got widow’s pention and that’s $760 a month! That’s all the income mother had since 1995!

She told that second lie to cover up the first lie with her husband who was present and didn’t know she’d told the first lie!

There is a new pocket size recording device out that is used for children with autisim and they are dirt cheap and can record for HOURS! They even have cell phone apps that can be loaded for a few dollars that record.Many cell phones have removable mini SD cards that can be placed in an adapter and information loaded onto PC/CD/DVD and stored for later use.

When a sociopath is telling a lie that is the moment to confront them about it. When you call them out on it they will change the subject or try and choose up teams against you or bully you into backin down. Try and save them embarrassment in front of others but do confront them. Try your best to stay calm and not yell or swear, state facts and back those facts up if need be. If they persist and most will, they will more than likely over time progress to violent behavior. My situation is at that point now. I’m receiving verbal threats via my disciple daughter.

Joe, I’m at a point where I’ve written my sociopath sibling off. I’m taking her to court and I’m going to see her behind bars for a good long while over the things she did to my mother when she was alive. We’ll start with forgery, bank fraud, mortgage fraud, title fraud, elder abuse and neglect then we’ll finish with destroying personal property that WAS NOT hers to destroy.

Yes, Joe, I have certified copies of all my proof and pictures to boot. I am armed with the truth thanks to Larry and this website!

God speed my good man! We here in the Country of Liars are just a click away if you need us.

Sincerely,
Blacksheep

I don’t know what to tell you specifically other than to distance yourself, and if need be, write them off. Writing them off sounds drastic, but it’s for your own sanity. Some may come back around in the future.

Here’s my story…

My half-sister is a sociopath. Her dad is one too. They have no contact with each other whatsoever. They wrote each other off years ago. She uses her kids as weapons and the two youngest are disciples of her.

Anyway, there have been times when her and I are very close, but every time I end up really hurt by her. I am to the point in my life, where I don’t even let her get close anymore because I assume she is planning something malicious. She hates the fact that I still occasionally talk to her ex husband who is a neighbor of mine. She thinks we are always plotting against her. When actually, she is hardly ever even brought up.

In the past year, she has been very nice to me. And she even sent me a friend request on Facebook that I reluctantly accepted. She doesn’t like her kids around me because she thinks I am just going to try to talk them into contacting their dad. (Who she has kept them away from for over 7 years now.) Her son recently graduated high school and added me on Facebook too.

I decided I would send her daughter a friend request as well thinking she would be allowed to accept. She denied the request and sent me a message saying she don’t want to talk to me because she thinks I am just going to try to get her to talk to her dad who as she put it “I obviously don’t know him anymore.” I told her that I had no intention of any of that and I just wanted to be in contact with her because I’ve missed out on so much of those kids’ lives. She has yet to reply back. I am thinking that she has either been very brainwashed by her mom or is just as bad as her. Or of course, which is the most likely case, the message was sent by my sister, rather than my niece.

I am to the point where I would love to just erase them from my memory because it hurts so much sometimes.

Once while my sister and I were fighting, I made the mistake of telling her that I know she’s a sociopath. She then started telling people lies about me. She even called our mother to complain to her about telling me my sister is that way. She has even tried convincing people that I’m borderlined retarded. Luckily no one has believed it.

In my opinion, Yes, there is an end. But we, the victims, have to close the book. The sociopaths never will. Closure is not important to them. They simply abandon one whim for another. I have noticed that when they see a blank stare coming from you it is the closest they come to truly understanding you have seen through them.

I have adopted a certain coldness (out of necessity, mind you). They do squirm. But, they will attempt (and dwell on) defamation and revenge if they don’t have something better going. It sounds weird for it to be “you” and “them”; especially when you are talking about family and loved ones. Just remember we’re the ones that love. They do not love us. I was able to cross over in my mind when I realized that to be the truth. I admit I still second guess myself sometimes. But the truth is there. I just internally remind.

He is leaving this weekend. He is acting like the new gig is so much better and that we were holding him back anyway. I think it is best to let him be rude and smug. After all he IS better than me.

The hate is gone. The pity is gone. The shame is gone. The guilt is gone.

Here is what is left. NOTHING. Get out of my life.”

This is the final statement of a former daughter to her lying, cheating, conniving, using, lazy, narcissistic sociopath of a former father.

“The sight of you turns my stomach. The sound of your voice causes anger. The lilting tones when I hear you on the phone telling lies to your next victim induces such emotion that I can hardly contain myself. I want to scream to them, BEWARE, for he will lie to you, make strange promises, and take from you.

You are not smart, you are not great, and you are not wise. You are disgusting.”