First, because it’s so important to me, I would like to reiterate what I have stated many times before: I speak nothing but the truth — no one is more honest than I. 

I would also hold my integrity and morality up to anyones. I was truly a sucker, especially with my ex-wife, and I will pay for it until the day I die. What a sociopath does to their victim can never be undone, nor can it stop.

Sharing my life’s stories is all driven by the need to expose the truth. I have nothing to gain from this, whatsoever, but potentially, much more to lose. For one, it’s all anonymous … if I were out to flame, slam or ridicule these people, this is not the way to do it.

In Q1 1995, my divorce was finalized with Julie, and I was granted full physical and legal custody of my son (then 4) and my daughter (then just 2). In less than a year, I walked away from a very successful career, one which I loved, just so I could be the best parent, by far, to those two innocent children.

And then for the following years, their innocence would come out in the form of questions — questions so poignant and candid that it took everything I had, in that instant, to keep my insides from ripping out.

Our inJustice System

God help you if you ever need to face a sociopath in court. Julie was much more than just a sociopath, which I cover throughout this site. She is a dangerous woman, as reported by a clinical psychologist. The system failed me and my kids, many times.

And the judge we had each time, just this year, resigned in disgrace. One of the events reported was when a patrol car got some of the sexual action, when he pulled up to a parked car with the judge and a defense attorney going at it. The judge had presided over 225 of her cases, and after an investigation (of sorts), it was reported that there were no improprieties (my ass).

The disorders that are referred to with the word “sociopath” are somewhat varied, and generalized. Primarily, it’s the range of Personality Disorders, such as APD (antisocial), BPD (borderline), NPD (narcissistic) and others.

They are not transferred by a dirty toilet seat, a bad upbringing, or kissing someone. They are spread genetically … which means that they are hereditary, and that they run in families. There is no treatment nor cure. Usually, the disorder does not ‘wake-up’ until the individual reaches their teens or early-20s. Up until then, there would be no sign of it, whatsoever. It’s just wait and see.

True Helplessness

Knowing what their mother was diagnosed with, I began my own research in 1995 so I’d be ready if I saw the early-warning signs. I did identify them. By then, though, I also knew that there was nothing I could do. All I could do was watch in horror. I tried everything available to me, though even then, I knew it was only an exercise in futility.

My son, now in his second or third year in college, knows of this site, and is the only family member who does. His change was so dramatic and so incredibly painful to me, as he had always been just a great son. His friend’s parents asked if I’d consider trading. He consistently ranked in the top 1% nationwide in science and mathematics, and the top 10% in everything else.

In the sixth grade, he was invited by our state university system to attend their achievement program of Saturday University, School for the Gifted — his first class was in Marketing. He received a varsity letter in academics for three out of his four high school years. He took a break from his Taekwondo training just prior to finishing up training for his black belt, not knowing at the time he’d never be back to finish.

He didn’t even realize the change was happening to him. One evening, he was talking about what his mom would do, and how her actions disgusted him. As I was listening to him talk about his mom, I realized he was talking about things that he was already doing himself, yet he was oblivious to it.

When he stopped to get a reaction from me, I said, “You know, you are much more like your mom now, than you are like me.”   He literally froze as he was staring back at me. I truly shocked him, but it was only a matter of time.

Wow, you got me started when you mentioned my kids. They were my world. All three have left my world. There’s no bigger pain, as life now carries little in the way of meaning.

Count your blessings.

Your blog is of great value and if anyone else reads it and wants to doubt it…are YOUR children’s lives important enough to you to save them from evil preditors??? I am sure you would jump through the same hoops I am if this was happening to you.

Don’t doubt the severity of the claims on this blog…it IS possible and is for sure PROBABLE that what he has document is THE TRUTH…something I have to now preach to my children for the rest of their lives.

A fact that has presented itself many times to me, as well as being proven in a UK study, people are much more open to believing lies than they are in believing the truth.

Anyone who sympathizes with your wife either hasn’t read your posts … or is a sociopath themselves.

Anyways your blog has proved extrememly useful to me.

Thank you for documenting this.

Thank you.

My experience shows a very clear line separating those who do believe and those who do not.

The believers have personal experience with a sociopath.

The non-believers have none.

Funny how that works. For some, since they have not seen for themselves how evil a sociopath can be, they will turn on those who share their stories, such as me, and judge us as the crazy ones. If they don’t believe what they cannot see, I wonder what they think they are breathing.

“… a little emotional …”
Which emotion are you referring to? Happy, sad, joyful, excited … there are a lot of possibilities.

“… which is why you’ve chosen to believe your ex-wife is a heinous sociopath who wanted your kids to go hungry.”
Actually, I did not choose anything. My ex had a full psychological evaluation, which diagnosed bipolar disorder, borderline schizophrenic, psychotic, revengefully dangerous … as well as the real scary problems.

“So…What did you do to her that made her hate you like this? Sheesh.”
I married her. Same as the three other guys.

“Of course I still only have one side of the story.”
You are free to get her side of the story. I can’t help you with that, though.

Looks like she was pretty heinous.

Of course I still only have one side of the story.

It didn’t sound at all like she thought the kids would starve. It sounds more like she was excited by the prospect of you having to go back to the store to buy food.

Did your children starve as a result of this?

You may have been a little emotional when you heard this, which is why you’ve chosen to believe your ex-wife is a heinous sociopath who wanted your kids to go hungry. As an outsider, I didn’t get that impression at all. Sounds more like she wanted to make life hell for you.

So…..What did you do to her that made her hate you like this? Sheesh.