Comments on: What’s my best option to avenge a sociopath?

By: Larry

Larry — Thu, 10 May 2012 18:33:49 +0000

You can find Caringaunt’s original post here:

http://country-of-liars.com/2520/sociopath-protection/comment-page-1/#comment-3913

By: Patti

Patti — Thu, 10 May 2012 17:43:20 +0000

Larry – What happened to Caringaunt’s original post about her niece? I see her post 05/02 thanking you for your advise, but don’t see any previous post from her…was it deleted or maybe on a different thread? Thx

By: Becca

Becca — Wed, 02 May 2012 12:17:19 +0000

Caring Aunt your story and description of what your niece is encountering is very troubling and I believe 100 % true.

Protect yourself, be somewhat covert and NEVER give your SIL a heads up on anything. These type of people do not and will not ever see the same situation as you do. They choose to live and perceive their life as they believe it to be, in their own mind.

Give them some of their own medicine by NOT backing down and question them, never provide an answer to them, question them with a question right back at them. Try to exhaust them as they exhaust us with all of their deceit, nonsense and trickery.

Remember the GOAL, your niece. Stay focused, be smart and keep on the path. It is scary, but doing nothing is not the answer.

By: Larry

Larry — Wed, 02 May 2012 11:56:07 +0000

I would not suggest approaching her … she’ll see you as a threat. I still say DFCS is your best bet. Just keep on them until they do something. You don’t want them coming out, you want the meeting done at school or DFCS.

By: caringaunt

caringaunt — Wed, 02 May 2012 11:44:09 +0000

Thanks for your advice in regards to my 6 year old niece. I have called that toll free number before, they said they will send a social worker and investigate only if they found it worth investigating.

My niece will not say one word against her mom, she is too scared, the neighbors and teachers all will vouch for sister in law, so I have to proceed with caution. Also SIL will know right away it is me who started it because I have asked her before “do you have a problem that your daughter is very bonded to me?”, of course her answer was “not at all” and she sees how happy my niece is to see me when I visit.

I have had a couple of talks with her before, very subtle. Now I am thinking of talking to SIL, because things are getting worse, I feel like I am losing my niece anyway! But I am also afraid what she may do to me, make my niece lie for her, etc.

But I really feel the need to talk to her, nothing accusatory or confrontational, nothing threatening, just to ask her maybe she is not aware of certain things she is doing, does she need any help. Frankly she is so aware, but I will have to fake it as well, so as to not enrage her. Also I have no support from my brother or my mom. I have read a few posts from this site, very useful, thank you!

By: Becca

Becca — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 11:07:46 +0000

Jordan,
Here’s a quote that I found so interesting and true, here is how he gets his disciples. : (

“The trust of the innocent is the liar’s most useful tool. ”
― Stephen King

The father attends the chamber meetings in the county, so I am going to persue the “independent” psychologist. Pray 4 for me.

By: Jordan

Jordan — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 02:56:21 +0000

Becca,

Larry is right. I have considered that option too. I had a very negative occurance with them once dealing with a long ongoing custody battle with my stepson. It was because he was angry with me over a minor incident he turned on me and,, ugh.. just a very bad experience. I have been thrown under the bus so many times whith her and her kids (one of which is definately a sociopath, like his mother…. although I still don’t want to believe it) I have treadmarks all over me. All because I’m a nice, decent, HONEST, and trusting person,,, who forgave too many times.

However, if you have a solid case, and a sound mind,,, youv’e got to do what you have to do. You can only lose so many nights sleep before it takes it’s toll, like me. God bless, and please keep us informed. You are not alone Becca!

By: Larry

Larry — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 13:00:19 +0000

Becca,

I’m not sure if I mentioned this to you, but every county has a Department of Family and Children services. They have counselors specializing in child therapy that work with the courts.

On top of that, it’s free (I believe, it is where i live). The safety of children is their primary goal.

They’ve done good things for me.

By: Becca

Becca — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 12:24:20 +0000

Thank you Jordan. I am learning more and more about, what I am dealing with now. I can basically know what will happen next. However with these type of people you can never truly know what they will do next. They are constantly changing the rules to suit there own selfish purpose. I try so hard to not give him anything, yes he slides through a crack in the door and he will blow up the most innocent occurrence into something out of this world. My heart is pounding and I do feel fear..but my protection of my child far outweighs any hesistance. I am going to roll the dice, take a chance and take my child to see this psychologist. Pray for us and wish me luck. : )

By: Jordan

Jordan — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 05:03:19 +0000

Also, I need to be clear…. Although I state I did nothing wrong, the problem is,, I did everything wrong and she exploited it. I’m not perfect, I, just like everyone else has flaws. No doubt, through this period I have been doing a great deal of soul-searching and hope I can live through it to work on those things. Best thing you can do? Don’t give them any (anymore, in my case) to hang you with. Just stay calm, and focus on helping yourself is a good start, so I would think. At least that’s my take right now..