When looking at your sociopath, all you see is another person. What you will never see is that person’s history.
Updated 15 July 2012
No matter who you are, how powerful you are, what profession you’re in, how smart you think you are, how many friends you think you have … no matter what you think you’ve got that no one else has, try to understand the risk is too high to expose, or take on a sociopath or psychopath.
Try to accept that your best chance of maintaining your quality of life is to forget it and move on. The odds are entirely against you.*
It’s what you don’t know.
This sociopath used you, and your innocent actions resulted in someone losing something (the who and what are not important here). It was by complete chance that you discovered the sham. The sociopath is currently unaware that you know.
You don’t want to see it happen to anyone else. From your good, honest upbringing, you want to expose this guy and make him pay for damages, so as to make sure he won’t do it again.
You believe in accountibility.
Your sociopath first recognized his outwardly differences from most other people about 30 years ago. He’s intelligent, keenly attentive, shrewd, cunning, and manipulative. His experience has raised him to a level that woud be considered a master at what he does.
And what he does is only to benefit himself at the cost of others. Without the normal feelings of remorse and guilt, or any other typical human emotion, he has always slept well at night. What he did to you is a regular, almost daily offensive deed in this guy’s life. It’s considered small stuff. Some of his disciples actually help him with the small stuff. One can say that the small stuff pays the utilities.
The Other Stuff.
But only your sociopath, himself, knows about the other stuff … the other stuff is actully the large stuff. He maintains complete control because of the risks. The large stuff falls under corporate white-collar crime. The large stuff is criminal.
What the sociopath knows extremely well are the details of the large stuff and the legal gravity they represent.
You are only aware of the one little thing he used you for, and that’s what you want him to pay for.
The sociopath has long known that getting busted for all those unsolved crimes would just about guarantee incarceration for the rest of his life.
What level of risk did you just move yourself into?
In the eyes of the sociopath, getting your vindication could very easily result in his full exposure, meaning that the Law would be provided enough evidence to match your sociopath up to an unknown number of unsolved crimes. He’ll never let that happen; if he wants to live freely, he can’t let it happen.
He knows he must act fast, with something I call “offensive-revenge.” He does not know if you will act, but out of paranoia, he assumes you will. He’s never looked at a risk like this before, but as he learned long ago, whatever needs to get done, simply needs to get done. That’s all the justification required.
He knows you must never be heard from again.
So at a minimum, he will assassinate your character. Decimate it. And when that happens, people will begin to avoid you. Your friends will become distant and eventually vanish. And because no one will speak with you, no one will tell you what they were told. You’ll have no idea why your friends ignore you, as they have been thoroughly sucked into the lies.
I know this all to well on a personal level. It’s a terribly lonely place to be.
*The odds were calculated by my own experiences and those reported to me by other victims — never have I heard of a successful victim.