I never had any communication with Christopher, so I was never sure what made him tick. Now I have a clear picture.

In hindsight, there were many red flags, but at the time, I believed her lies. She had incredible mood swings, which were eventually attributed to her being bipolar. I see now that I was fully manipulated by her — she was a seductress.

I must accept that I was in a somewhat vulnerable place at the time. My previous girlfriend got pregnant about four years earlier. We agreed to marry, only to have it last about 18 months — a relationship I ended. I relinquished custody to her, but deeply missed my daughter, even though I saw her regularly.

I would have been tempted simply not to reply at all to Christopher’s note from out of the blue – you have no obligation to respond or to explain. Who wants to be drawn back into the web of deceit and abuse again? Usually they try to draw you back in with some kind of a note like what Christopher wrote…and as you said, you have no idea how sincere or not this fellow is.

I do have a question for you, if it’s not too personal – was there any red flag(s) about your ex-wife Julie, before you married her, that foreshadowed what kind of a person that she is? Or were you completely unaware before marriage? I guess I’m asking if there is anyway someone could avoid a relationship with a socio by spotting certain things.

Also, many times the socio likes to target a person who is in a vulnerable place – new to an area, just ended a relationship, single parent, relative’s death, etc.

Thanks for all your insight.

The nine emails which followed are just above the comment section.

My ex committed at least five counts of perjury, and not one thing happened to her. Instead, they let her have what she wanted. The judge, the same one who resigned in shame, early in 2010, for screwing with young, female attorneys, actually said to me in court, “Now stop and look at Julie  (note: Julie had not said a thing in the hearing) — are you going to tell me that she’s not a good mom?”

There’s a narcissist ex-judge … he thought he could tell from a person’s looks who is good and who’s bad! I feel for the not-so-attractive who had to face him on the bench. He was a sitting superior court judge for 23 years.

I thought he was looney almost immediately, which to me, meant he was frightening. Because while you’re in a judge’s court room, they own your ass. They can do whatever they want to anyone in their court room. While making a plea for the safety of my daughter, after she was kidnapped by her mom, that same judge told the bailiff to get me out of his courtroom … and he’d like, he could book me into jail. I had done absolutely nothing wrong.

Why didn’t those prosecutors or other attorneys who worked with him, all those years, seeing his daily antics, and doing nothing? That’s a rhetorical question.

Because it’s all part of the game. It’s all about winning cases.

To be successful in the legal field, it takes something special — I believe there’s a high incidence of sociopaths admitted to the Bar.

Julie sounds disturbingly similar to my ex. The courts did mine no good — she managed to charm her way out of a five-year felony into an 11-month misdemeanor.

I wish we could make them wear signs or tattoo their foreheads.

I’ll be right back … I need to run.

I gotta catch that frog and get my money back.
 
 
This loses a little without the necessary eye contact. I can keep a straight face while I watch the faces of my unsuspecting audience morph from a simple “he’s kidding”  smile, right into a very warped “he’s not kidding”  fake smile.

All while I glance at everyone with my faked “what’s wrong?”  confused look … then we all sit in silence and avoid eye contact.

No one really ever knows.