The tease of reconnecting.

This has been a year I could have done without (but to clarify, I’ve had many of those). Things are always happening, but luckily, they are virtually void of my siblings. It’s been about eight years since I’ve had any contact with them, though I’m know I’m still a topic of theres. I hear things every so often to confirm this. But I’m over it, and over them.

The only one I’ve still maintained hope for is my youngest daughter, the one I raised solo along with her brother. He is the only family member that I still have a relationship with. It’s not like we talk daily, but we do stay in touch. Per her desire, she and I have had no contact since 2006. Most any parent out there knows how painful that can be. But last month, there was a blip in the forcefield. My son sent me a text telling me that my daughter wanted me to contact her, and he gave me her number. Without any expectations, I sent her a text.
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Can a “bad-upbringing” create a psychopath?

Q: Can a “bad-upbringing” create a sociopath?
A: Upbringing will not make a psychopath, nor prevent one.

What defines “bad-upbringing”?
What defines “good-upbringing”?

Consider this: if “bad-upbringing” can create a psychopath, then “good-upbringing” should prevent one. The argument is flawed, since if one is true, so should be the other; if one is false, then they are both false.

I know as fact that even a strong, compassionate bond with your well-liked kids is no match for the bad gene. In most cases, Continue reading

The Devils Among Us

This is one man’s very real story — my nightmare — beginning with my earliest memories, being physically and verbally abused by my alcoholic father, as well as his favorite and first child, my violently hostile, oldest sister, Kathy. Another older sister, Marcia, began her own psychological abuse against me sometime in her mid-to-late teens.

Hers were very calmly delivered, pure psychological degradation. She was very narcissistic, such as entering beauty pageants, taking modeling classes, and becoming a varsity song girl (i.e., cheer leader) in high school. She craved the attention, and would walk past me on campus as if we were complete strangers — no, actually she’d probably smile to a complete stranger.

Sometime between his teens and 20s, my younger brother, Alan, emerged with his own narcissistic and violent, sociopathic characteristics. None of us were close growing up. The only two siblings who maintained an ongoing relationship into adulthood were Kathy, the oldest, and Alan, the youngest. They also shared the similar violent and hostile temperaments, the charming personas, and the complete lack of compassion, morality, integrity and of course, any semblance of honesty. Continue reading

Growing-up hated by loved ones.

For three years before I was born, even with another sister between us, Kathy got all dad’s attention. Old family photos hold many secrets. Kathy was always in dad’s lap. Marcia was always in mom’s.

Mom was pregnant again. If my folks didn’t have a boy, that would put an end to any future generations of our family branch. In that vein, Marcia was probably a disappointment of sorts, not being a boy, which contributed to Kathy maintaining dad’s favor after Marcia was born.

It’s a Boy.

Namesake, even. Photos of me being held by every distant relative, many whom had not appeared in any previous family photos, and virtually no sign of Kathy in any of those early photos. Continue reading

A Family of Sociopaths — Part 1

PART 1: Events Leading up to the First Red Flag.

Synopsis :: This is the detailed story about how I discovered, at the age of 50, that my oldest sister is an evil psychopath. Even though she exhibited various traits over her entire life, it all came down to one little accident — the first red flag — and how I was determined to find where it led.

From his pre-school years, my son David showed a strong knack for logic, intelligence and wit … well beyond his years. That was supported in his annual test scores, the national testing meant to compare students nationwide, by age and grade.

He consistently scored in the top 1% in both science and mathematics, and the top 10% is just about everything else. David had read more books by the time he hit middle school than I’ve read in my entire life. And in sixth grade, he was invited to attend Atlanta’s Georgia State University’s Saturday School for the Gifted. Continue reading

Teen bullies protected by school administrators.

Each school day in the US, approximately 160,000 kids do not go to school for fear of being bullied. Source: CDC

Could a Teen Bully be a Young Sociopath in Training?

The direct answer is probably not sociopaths, but life-long bullies. I cover more of that throughout the site.

I know the life history of two sociopaths, one currently in her early-50s, and the other in her late-50s. In both cases, I believe it’s safe to say they were born with personality disorders. As young children and teens, they were already acting out unpolished characteristics of a sociopath, as it would still require experience for them to hone their narcissistic, manipulating and maliciously-deceptive skills.

Both of these individuals exhibited clear warning signs while they were still minors, even though each displayed them in very different ways. In neither case, did their behavior draw any intervention. So it may be safe to say that it would not necessarily be a simple process to identify young people with one of the sociopathic disorders.

Then again, do we have our eyes open?

THE BULLY SYNDROME :: Now Playing at Schools Everywhere.

As I began looking into the problem of student harassment, a friend of mine gave me the name of a clinical psychologist, Dr. Bob, PhD [not his real name], who’s entire life’s work is focussed on school-aged individuals. He is the full-time, Lead Psychologist at the largest school district in the state (by enrollment), and also maintains a ongoing calendar on the lecture circuit.
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