This is a tough post to write. [NOTE: this is not the end of this blog]

Due to physical and emotional injuries, I have been unable to hold a regular job for the past decade. I’ve been sustaining myself with a lot of luck these past 12 years, but that luck has finally run out. I’m losing my home within the next few weeks. I’m all alone on this one.

I’ve decided to go on with the minimum amount of “stuff” after accumulating what amounts to 21 years in the same house, raising two kids, and struggling to make ends meet. Character assassination lasts a life-time, so there’s no family or old relatives for me to call on. I have very few people in my life who I can call “close friends”. I pretty much keep to myself, my few clients, and my dogs. I’d rather not have my clients find out, but that will probably be close to impossible.
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Recovery from evil is within your grasp, but it can’t be rushed. You can help it along, for example, by reading and/or beginning a daily journal of your own. It really is doable, but you must be proactive and patient.

I want to share with you a letter I received last night from a long-time reader. He subscribed to this site so as not to miss anything, but his letter was to inform me that he had just stopped his subscription:

Dear Larry,

I just “unsubscribed” from your blog continue reading…

NOTE: This single post is fictional though based on actual events. This is the only post on the site that contains non-factual content. It’s one way of looking at sociopaths.

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I have great reservations about sharing this with anyone. I learned at a recent meeting about those with AsPD (commonly referred to as sociopaths), along with NPD, BPD and others, primarily because it requires explaining how I got there. The truths, though, were beyond imagination.

So before I get to the meeting, I must explain briefly how the meeting was set up for me, and why. Even with my best effort, this part will be virtually impossible for me to convince you of — yet I still need to tell it. Because if that first unexpected event had never happened, then I would have never known about the meeting, or many other things. That event was the catalyst that influenced many parts of my life, but none nearly to the importance that the meeting played. continue reading…

What do you think of when you consider a ghost? There is no such thing? A transparent human form that glides across the floor? Eerie noises and footsteps? However, if you feel as if you’ve had an experience with a ghost, it’s not something you’d likely forget, good or bad.

I’ve come to realize ghosts in quite a different sort of way. They are real people from your past, but they are quite alive. They likely don’t know what you think of them, but if you happen to cross paths, those feelings you harbor can return immediately, good or bad. Why is fear and love so closely related. Honest, passionate love seems to be so rare, that some people will run from it. Is that the scary part? That people are afraid of that much love. What is in true love that makes some people so fearful, continue reading…

Updated 11 Jul 2012*

Here it’s been about 10 years since my sister, Kathy, became aware that I knew too much about her activities and she immediately made me her number one victim, and with my other siblings joining, destroyed my character. There’s been no communication between us for years. Out of my entire family, only my son and eldest aunt will speak with me.

Last week, I was talking with my aunt and out of the blue she said, “I don’t know what’s going on with Kathy. We were talking the other day and she told me to take you out of my will. I asked why? Kathy gave some weak answer, so I told her outright I was not taking you out of my will … and then she went ballistic. She was yelling at me like no one had ever done. She really upset me. But a couple days later, Kathy called me and she was back to her charming self.” continue reading…

For what my mom and I went through, this describes one of the worst periods in my life.

This post was originally an email written to a close friend, way back in May 2006. My dad had died almost four months earlier. It describes the events leading up to and after my mom was kidnapped by my sister.

It was all maliciously-planned, and deceptively-executed. The only two people who were deceived were my mom and me, which makes me believe that the others all had something to gain from this.

Mom and I were made to believe that she would only stay with my sister, Kathy, for no more than a month while we decided what was best for her future. continue reading…

Question from reader “Jenna”

I have tipped off my sociopath that I’m aware of what he is, as well as past crimes. He has already subjected me to unthinkable violations. How can I protect myself now?

It’s difficult for me to come up with any specific recommendation as I know not what your relationship was or is with this man … partner, co-worker, family member, supervisor, etc., and for how long. If his past crimes could mean incarceration, your safety could be at risk.

But generally speaking, the number one suggestion would be to move far away with no forwarding information. If he just found out, as you said, your problems are just beginning. He likely believes you are a threat to exposing him, and will always be. Being far away diminishes that threat to some level. continue reading…

Questions by reader “Joanna”

1) Does the law recognize antisocial personality disorder?

Antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), the disorder that psychopaths (a.k.a. sociopaths) are afflicted with, is a recognized mental condition. Therefore, the courts do recognize it, but with some basic caveats. continue reading…

Character assassination is an attempt to tarnish [or destroy] a person’s reputation. It may involve exaggeration or manipulation of facts to present an untrue picture of the targeted person. It is a form of defamation and can be a form of ad hominem argument.*

The Irreversible Effects

For living individuals targeted by character assassination attempts, this may result in being rejected by his community, family, or members of his or her living or work environment. Such acts are often difficult to reverse or rectify, continue reading…

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Synopsis :: The most common question seems to be: “How do I identify a sociopath?”  I believe it’s the wrong question.

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Out of every 100 people, approximately 90 have at least one sociopath in their circle of friends. Those remaining 10 people are the sociopaths. Ballpark.

Estimates vary anywhere from 4% to 12% of those waiting in line with us at the grocery store are sociopaths. These personality disorders, categorized as sociopathic (or psychopathic), are very misunderstood by the public, especially in accepting the fact that they are extremely prevalent and dangerous. And that “danger” does not usually refer to physical violence.

I believe the first matter to deal with is to shed the denial. Of course, that’s very difficult to convince people of the reality … and for some, it’s virtually impossible. What is equally as prevalent and dangerous, as the condition itself, is the rampant denial. Those in denial will usually deny they’re in denial, too.

I used to get baffled as to why otherwise intelligent people would allow themselves to be controlled and manipulated. Intelligence actually has little to do with it. Psychopaths go after our emotions, are very shrewd and cunning, and are playing us right from the beginning. When they’re done, we believe we met one of the nicest people we know. It will be very difficult if we stay on the emotional level to ever see the truth.

Those who allow themselves to be manipulated are not only shallow, but are a big part of the problem. A sociopath’s power only grows with more blind followers, people I call “disciples.” My theory is that only a small minority of the population are true critical thinkers, though the majority would say they are.

Most psychopaths are never diagnosed, though, and that’s for one very simple reason: they do not want to be diagnosed. Most of the clinically-diagnosed psychopaths were already incarcerated and went through the clinical testing due to a court order. There is no blood-test-type diagnostic procedure providing a positive or negative result. The testing is quite complex.

“How do I identify a sociopath?”

That’s the most common question, and I believe, it’s the wrong question. continue reading…