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Country-of-Liars made its inaugural web debut with little fanfare in August 2009. Instead of writing a notebook journal, I decided to use the web. To my complete surprise, this web site began to appear on Google’s page one results in less than three months.
If you have no experience with a psychopath (a.k.a., sociopath), especially as a first-hand targeted victim, then chances are slim that this site will be believable to you. But if you can trust that this is nothing but truth, you will likely begin to understand what evil truly is — and the many charming faces it takes.
Since August 2009, I have published over 60 relatively long posts of my life experiences, and have many more that are unfinished. But in that same period of time, this same site has accumulated over 1600 comments to those posts. I do my very best to communicate with most of those anonymous individuals who have discovered that they are potentially trapped in a similar situation. And “trapped” is a very key word.
A sociopath’s true personality is one of a skilled, maliciously evil, emotion-free, narcissistic monster. But don’t try looking for these monsters out in the public, because they use what’s called a persona — a fake personality — to blend in with the rest of us. You can even say they are very talented actors. And these psychopaths are very real and around us everyday. You may work with some, you may work for one, you may attend religious service with a few, and you may live with one.
Some are so outwardly charming, that they blend in way too well. And statistically speaking, you’ve known a few throughout your life. If they do not sense you present a threat to their secret lies, they will likely leave you alone. You will think they are some of the nicest people you know. But they are just the opposite.
Even if from their own paranoia — nothing you did — they determine that you now know their secret life, your life will never be the same. Since they do not want anyone to listen to you, they begin what I call offensive-revenge, and that usually begins with character assassination — something you may not even know about for years. When you find out, it will be too late.
Like I said, if you have no experience as a sociopath’s target, you probably won’t believe it. The only people who seem to believe it are those who have been maliciously targeted and sabotaged themselves.
My name is Larry. I accidentally found out too much about one specific member of my family. The result was that my character has been completely destroyed.
With over 1600 comments on this site, I’ve listed below some short excerpts from readers. Some of their comments are longer than my original posts. I attempt to reply to most comments, though I’m unable to keep up. These all appear in their original context throughout Country-of-Liars comment sections.
“I have experienced more healing in the last two days due to having come to this website than I did over the last two years while I was fighting for my life.” — JCat
“I think your site is the best I have seen, and I have seen A LOT of them!” — Claire
“I am so happy to have found this site.” — Jill
“Wow. You have done a fantastic job with detailing the counter covert operatives in your life. Kudos to you for the work you have done to share your story. You are spot on in your classification of these piranhas and I really liked the term disciples.” — Grace
“Wow! I’m so glad I stumble upon this site.” — Progprof
“… everything you wrote has come true for me.” — Surviving
“You have described my husband well.” — Lisa
“One dark cold lonely tear-filled night 2 years ago your candle shined like a beacon in the night, you saved me from suicide.” — Blacksheep
“I wish I found this site sooner too.” — True Colors
“I can’t thank you enough for this website… it has done the one thing I have not been able to find anywhere else before – it has helped me feel like I am not alone in what I’ve gone through.” — Laura
“I have only just found this site and I wish I had found it 20yrs ago…” — Enlightened
“… I stand by my words when I say: THAT makes you a giant of humanity.” — Reader from Austria
“Wonderful website. Knowledge can be a powerful tool.” — Emma
“This web site has provided me with several options to protect my child and I am going to pursue them.” — Becca
“I cannot tell you how deeply your blog/site has affected me even though it’s been less than a couple of days discovering it.” — Jordan
“Karma is a bitch if YOU are.” — Blacksheep
“This site is a great one in spreading awareness.” — Danna
“Larry, I can’t say thank you enough for making this blog. This is a place of retreat from the wild; the misunderstanding and judgements of others.” — Ruth
“I came across your site a couple of years ago, and it has helped me ever since.” — R
“I want to thank you, Larry, as you have helped me understand the inconceivable …” — PP Mom
“You will never hear this kind of advice from an ‘expert’. Thanks to Larry for printing the truth.” — Madmacks
“I want to stress that this website is important, essential, crucial to victims of sociopaths.” — JCat
“Thank you for addressing so much and helping so many!” — Angie
“God bless you too Larry for creating this very informative site! … You’ve been a God send to me and I thank God everyday for your website and your knowledge!” — Blacksheep
“… i have found this very interesting and has made me think about life in a different way …” — Pete
“… you have a lot of insight even more so than some of the psychologists I have gone to …” — CaringAunt
“Larry, your site has been a true God send to me.” — Blacksheep
“I can’t thank you enough for this website…” — Laura
“God Bless you Larry and your wonderful website which has helped me regain some sense of normalty in my own life …” — Blacksheep
“This is an important website.” — Anonymous
“I can’t stress it more strongly: study every word of Larry’s post. This man knows of what he speaks.” — ex-GF of Socio
“…you are such a great and helpful read.” — Pravacee
“I can not tell you how helpful each post you have made and all the comments from you and others have been to me.” — Claire
“You have helped so many of us … “ — Julie
“Once again, you nail the psychopathy experience right on the head.” — Madmacks
“Larry, I appreciate this site. It’s a lifeline of sorts to us who are beset upon by the confusing behaviors of the sociopaths in our lives.” — V
“Thank you Larry. I am so glad I discovered you. I’ve been tearing my hair out.” — Joanna
“This is brave! I’m thankful!” — Kris
“Thanks so much for writing your stories – it’s made me realize that I am not alone and that it’s okay for me to have a life.” — Deborah
“I may never really experience love now, thanks to that [six-month relationship with a sociopath].”
— Louis, PhD Student in Clinical Psychology
“Larry I’m in awe of you. I don’t know how you stayed so calm.” — Carolyn
“Your insights are brilliant!” — Donna
“… it’s EXACTLY like you said – when you notice character assassination, it’s already way too late.” — Yami
“I am so glad to have found this site. I have perused many sites and they just don’t seem to get it.” — Doug
“You should have been a psychologist.” — Carol
“I started reading your blog as I wanted to understand my sociopathic boss better and wanted to thank you for your eloquent account of what happened to you … Your ‘toilet paper’ analogy is very apt … Well done!” — Maria
“I stumbled upon your blog when trying to find a chat room about sociopaths. I was riveted and read everything …” — Cathy F
“… every last word you just said is EXACTLY what I am experiencing. — Dawn
“I wish you would write a book so that people who can’t think for themselves (and I agree with your assessment on that subject entirely) can have the opportunity of learning about these sharks among us.” — Carolyn
“Julie sounds disturbingly similar to my ex.” — Isaac S
“Thanks, Larry. And thanks for this blog. When I was at my wits end with my sociopath siblings, just understanding what they were, helped me to get through the ordeal … — Karen
“Please continue updating this … I just recently stumbled upon this site and am enthralled by your story.” — Kaitlyn
“I love this site, it’s very helpful.” — Isabel
“I am a health professional and treat people for mental illness … and had always thought that sociopathy was something that affected people on a more grand scale, i.e the lies of Bush that got us embroiled in an invasion of Iraq that killed thousands of innocent people … I have to now say that though it all may be relative, the acute pain caused by such poisonous character assassination is very real.” — Dee
“That was so insightful! Thanks to your blog, I am sure I will tell the truth to my children.” — Katie
“Many thanks for responding to my question! I find your website very helpful and informative.” — Donna
“Your family situation sounds so identical to mine. Your term of Indirect Homicide is so true that it actually took my breath away when I read it.” — Cherie J
“Great post Larry.” — Doug
“The more I read and think about the sociopaths in my life, the more I’m convinced that genetics plays a much larger role than people realize or are willing to accept.” — Steph
“Larry, you sound like a modern day Sherlock Homes, and extremely level-headed.” — Emily
“OMG … why am I just now finding this site? If only I had read this at the beginning of my nightmare.” — Pravacee
“Thank you for this website! I guess I will not write my proposed book on sociopaths.” — Steve
“Please … where is the rest of the story!” [since completed] — Joanne
“The information I see on this site is wonderful and is helpful to me. I actually wish that I had come across it sooner.” — Louis
“Larry, Thanks. I don’t think anyone else understands.” — Freddy F.
“Larry, you are absolutely right about these types gaining disciples.” — Phillip
“Wow, am I glad I found this website today.” — Spookietoo
“You do a very good job of explaining how these people work. Thank you. It is very difficult for anyone who has not lived through this to understand.” — Daughter in Law
“Thank you so much for this article.” — Anonymous
Thank you to all those who comment!